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NETWORKING
Why do we need NRI Networking and also so important?

(I) NRIs and NRI's GROWTH :

  • At the start of the 19th century, the most  of  the NRIs  worked at menial jobs, lived in appalling conditions and were confronting with prejudice, mistrust, hardships, hostility, humiliation and bigotry.
  • In the mid-19th Century, majority of THE NRIs were highly qualified such as engineers, doctors, scientists, entrepreneurs and business owners and also brought their families by sponsoring them.
  • At the end of 19th Century, we have been on a big growth around 22 million in 1990
  • In 2016, demographers had the NRI's population at 28-30 million and by 2030 it is estimated about 40-45 million.
  • While the size of the NRI's elderly population has been increasing for the two decades, it is only in recent 5-7 years that the proportion has caught the attention of NRI young Entrepreneurs.

(II) NRIs DOMESTIC ISSUEs

We’ve been thinking a lot about NRI’s life lately. In fact, it feels like we’re hit by one debilitating heartbreak after another, such as Generation Gap between NRI Parents and NRI Children, placing NRI  parents in a Nursing Home, Divorce Rates Increased Over Time in NRI Community.

a) Generation Gap

Generation Gap between NRI Parents and NRI Children: The fact is that family life has changed in the last generation quite apart from the rise of technology. Yes of course there exists a generation gap between me and my parents. NRI parent’s lack of technological acumen, they may be unwilling to assert themselves in their children’s technological lives. Due to children’s sense of superiority and they may be unwilling to listen to their parents.

b) Divorce Rates

Divorce Rates Increased Over Time in NRI Community:
NRI first generation was grown up in a strictly anti-divorce culture in India even have prevalent arranged marriages and which are not rooted in love. In the past five years alone, there's been a 20% divorce rates in NRI first generation and 40-50% in NRI second generation. The chances of this NRI newly-weds staying together for the rest of their lives are slimmer than ever.

  • The pressures of the modern technology in home and workplace make a bigger difference and NRIs are concentrating more on the careers and less on their personal lives. Most of the time NRI 2nd generation don't want to put more efforts into a relationship to fix the issues.
  • In the NRI families, when a husband reported having a close relationship with his wife’s parents, the couple’s risk of divorce decreased by 40%. Conversely, when a wife reported having a close relationship with her husband’s parents, the couple’s risk of divorce increased by 50%.
  • Living with the in-laws, most of the women suffer mentally, sexually, emotionally, and distraction because they don't have a lot of privacy by sharing family room, kitchen and bathrooms.  They still want their son’s wives to cook food for them.  Those women who are financially independent or who have the support of their parents, there are 75% chances for divorce.

Keep in mind, NRI marriages are not always permanent these days. Smart NRI parents spent more money in education than spending big money on marriages.

c) Placing your parents in a nursing home
  • Placing your parents or grand parents into residential care or a nursing home remains a huge taboo within the NRI community.
  • For some families the consideration of a nursing home comes after a sudden stroke or fracture of the hip, making caring for an elderly parent at home seem impossible to manage. I never wanted my parents to go into a care home – then I had to face reality
  1. NRI Sushma verma was adamant that her mother and father would never have to go into a nursing home. But one day the unthinkable happened and they could no longer look after themselves. Suddenly, residential care seemed the answer
    • I would never put my parents into a care home. Only selfish children did that. I knew that - until the night I dropped by the family home to find my father sitting on the floor. He had a vague expression, as if nothing unusual had happened.
  2. Few months back, Surinder Kaur who is working as an  IT programmer on the airport  told NRIpress: “Her mother had suffered a mild heart attack and had been taken to the hospital. Surinder used the opportunity to share her concerns with her mother. But when the subject came to moving her mother away from her home, she was met with sharp resistance. "No," said her mother firmly. "I'm not moving." So how does a worried daughter convince a recalcitrant parent that moving to a long-term care facility is in their best interest?. Those can be the most difficult words a concerned child may hear their elderly parent say. No matter how smoothly the process goes, children often retain guilt about moving elderly parents to a long-term care facility.

d) NRIpress.Club like to set up PANEL to help NRI senior citizens who need personalized supportive services and health care and/ or who would like to participate in recreation, education and social activities with other seniors.

  1. This Panel should help to NRI Entrepreneurs to open NRI Assisted Living Facilities to provide 24 hour care with registered Care Aides, licensed Practical Nurses and on-call Physicians, who are able to communicate in English, Punjabi, Hindi, Bengali, Urdu and Fijian Hindi.
  2. Meals services should include South Asian food  like (Roti Dal etc.), and can be catered to specific dietary restrictions and preferences. The facilities should be  located nearby local temples and other services. Our NRIpress.club team should also help to raise funds for organizations who like to set up projects to help NRI seniors.

(III) NRI ISSUES IN INDIA

NRIs Helping India but NRIs are Betrayed: The repatriation of funds to India by NRIs is among the highest among expatriates in the world. On the other hand, In India, NRI’s properties are being grabbed

a) NRI’s properties  are being grabbed by mafia activists  and their own relatives in India

  • With real-estate prices soaring, NRIs are being deprived of their property by cheating relatives and land sharks.
  • It is a big business in India and several ruling party senior leaders are hand in gloves in this property grabbing trade. First the land is forcibly grabbed. The mafia activists approach and initiate procedure to persuade the NRI to sell the encroached property to one of them., as it would not be possible for him  to get back his property from the powerful mafia. Even some senior police officials support them. Therefore, NRI should sell the property to the mafia activists who with their influence with police and highly placed politicians would get it vacated. 
  • Helping Brothers, Sisters and Parents:  For the  past 2-3 decades, first generation NRIs  always helped their brothers, sisters and parents  in immigration and upgrading their education to get suitable jobs, even not spending time with their own kids. Unfortunately, most of them never appreciate and NRI’s property also grabbed with his own brother/sister relatives in India

b) NRIs are arrested under Dowry cases and false FIRs

  • NRIs cases are delayed by months to years. Abuse of anti-dowry laws has become serious enough that the United States Department of State has  published the following travel warning on its Web site, http://travel.state.gov, about "Dowry/Visa Demands" for travellers to India.

c) NRI Businesses in India:

  • NRIs become very upset when any business dispute occurred and contract would not enforceable because of delay. We have 100's stories of NRIs who started the projects in India, most of them made them near to bankrupt  and started their life again

d) False promises from politicians, the police officers and local office Departments

The breach of promises become very expensive to NRIs. There are no laws by which an oral promise by any person can be considered for legal action in case of any breach!

  • Justice Delayed is Justice Denied, due to India’s 30 Million Case Judicial Backlog. There are hundreds of victims of blackmail and extortion, involving NRIs in the criminal cases registered in India, without any punishment to the blackmailer. Most of the cases are reported to take between 5-10 and 20 years. Misuse and Mockery of Indian law and Judiciary must be stopped and Blackmailers punished.

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