Aqsa Parvez, 16 was murdered by Father during a confrontation about hijab

 

Is this a religious reason behind the killing of Muslim girl 16

Toronto, Dec. 13, 2007
Cap. Surinder Singh

Media in whole world is crying loudly and this is how it’s headlined:

Is the Hijab a Symbol of Oppression?

Teen tried to leave strict family

Aqsa Parvez: Death By Hijab

A Muslim girl was murdered over her refusal to wear a hijab

Father in Mississauga attacked his daughter during a confrontation about hijab

• Aqsa’s relationship with her father was antagonistic. she wore the latest garish teen styles — sometimes switching from one outfit to the other in between home and school
• Father wanted her to wear a hijab.

  Now question is :

  • How on earth could this happen?
  • Do we have a great culture?
  • If we have a great culture:
    • do our children follow this?
    • Do you think these kind of stories will be tolerated by our kids and accepted by whole world?

Muslim leaders say:

• Death of Aqsa Parvez had nothing to do with Islam
• It's a domestic violence issue
• Islam condemns violence and teaches adherents not to force their beliefs upon others
• We, as Muslims, are Canadians and we should be dealt with just like everyone else. We have rights, duties . . . pros and cons just like all other human beings

The tragedy has underscored a controversial and heated public debate about women's rights within Canada's Islamic communities, and inflamed existing tensions already strained by what Muslim leaders say is ignorance and misunderstanding in Canadian society.This can't just be about a father so driven to enforcing his will that he'd rather have a dead daughter than a disobedient one. Or can it?

Mohammad Iqbal Alnadvi, a marriage counselor and religious expert at the Al-Fatah Islamic Center in Oakville, said he believes it's important for parents in Muslim families to give their daughters a choice when it comes to decisions of dress.

According to local news paper, Aisha Asghar local resident said:

• The struggle of Muslim kids, especially girls, to fit in with their new Western lives isn't anything new. She remembers it from her own days in high school. Asghar says while most girls who wore hijab at her Scarborough high school wanted to do it, it was always clear which girls didn't.
• You could pick out the girls who wore hijab because they had to. They would wear revealing clothing and be walking around with their boyfriends but they had the "symbol" of Islam on their head. A lot of parents are concerned with putting a cloth on their daughter's head because they think it'll protect them
• Our root is the clash between what parents perceive as being their culture and what kids feel is their own. A lot of this is the disconnect between parents and their kids. These days you have to be your kid's friend to some degree, you can't just dictate all the time. You need to know what they want, what interests them
• It's inevitable that children will rebel if parents aren't tuned in. It could be that she hates everything her parents stand for and she was totally rejecting all that. That's what happens when people force things on you

This death is also warning to Sikh and Hindu NRI families. There ias a big gap between us and kids. We are still old fashion and running after $s and bigger houses. We don't spend time with our kids because we work long hours to pay our big houses's mortgages. Turban, chuni and drinks in the parties are also big issue in these days. We must adjust ourselves unless our kids will become our enemy and we also loose our reputation in the whole world

 

• Aqsa Parvez, 16 was murdered by Father during a confrontation about hijab