Think before
you speak
What you say and how
you communicate can make a big difference in how people respond
to you. Your words can take you places or can come back to haunt
you when you least expect.
Communication is very
important in any relationship, especially if you wish a healthy
one. We hear this repeatedly and every good book promotes this sentiment.
We try to communicate but we forget the next important lesson, “How
to communicate”. Some suggest, "don't say anything if
you don't have anything good to say," which is also good advice
if we want to be quiet most of the time. If we are rude or blunt
and no one wants to talk to us then we will be having a lot of conversations
with ourselves. "Weigh your words before you speak," now
there might be a lot of wisdom in this old saying and it might save
you and others a lot of stress and grief. Just think about it.
If we write a letter
to someone, we usually read it over at least once to make sure it
sounds alright. We usually check for grammar and spelling before
we send it off. But when we speak, we just say whatever comes to
our mind without giving a second thought to our words or even the
tone
You could hurt someone
unknowingly with the words you speak or the way you say them. Once
the words leave your mouth, it is impossible to take them back.
It doesn't matter how unintentional they may be, words can sometimes
cut a lot deeper than a sword. Very often you'll hear people say,
"I didn't mean to hurt your feelings," well if you didn't
want to hurt feelings why couldn't you be thoughtful before you
let the unpleasant words escape your loose lips.
Most people are usually
nice and polite with people they barely know but end up hurting
people they care about, because they don't watch what they say around
them. If you are too comfortable with your loved ones and are hasty
with your words, instead of taking them for granted, it might help
if you could take a step back and think of them as someone else
that you wish liked you. Don't forget that everyone hurts. Actually,
it hurts more if the pain comes from your own. Since you care for
your loved ones, you correct them, but very often your criticism
is passed very bluntly, without reflecting on the long term negative
effect it could have. Instead of letting your guard down completely,
I think that you would especially watch how you convey the unhappy
thoughts, because you want them to be happy. Kind words, even disagreeable
ones will help you keep friends who value your opinion.
You do not have to
like or even agree with everything your loved one likes. If you
have to disagree, please think of the person first and then think
of the ways you want to convey your thoughts. You could let them
down easy or tell them gently that you don't share their opinion
or enthusiasm. The least amount said is better in a disagreement.
Listen to their side of the story, but do not make a big deal out
of it. Go ahead and make a big deal when everyone is in agreement.
Celebrate!! How you say something can do wonders or disasters for
you and loved ones.
If we can be courteous
to mere acquaintances because we generally do not like to hurt anyone
and because we crave to be liked, then, why don't we want to take
the time to think and be nice to people who matter the most to us?
Why would we want to hurt the ones who stand by us because they
already like us?
Smile!! The smile
you send out returns to you. Most of the time, anyway!
Veera is a sentimental who has her own guilty moments
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