Now NRIs involve in Children's Academic, Social Development and becoming leaders
Los Angeles, Jun 28, 2015 NRIpress-Club/Gary Singh
"Now these days, we live in such a competition, new technology and terrorism situation that warns us of danger at every turn and always enforce our fear of losing our kids," said Gary Singh of NRIpress-Club, USA. " NRIs learn more about how they as parents are failing their children today."
When children fight with their siblings, they learn important lessons, such as how to settle, negotiate, and compromise. They begin to see conflict as a problem they can solve, said Niyantri Ravindran, a graduate student in Kramer’s and Nancy McElwain’s laboratories and lead author of the study.
“Parenting more than one child is stressful, and until now, there have been few ways to help parents deal with their own distress when children squabble. Many parents, especially mothers, use how their kids are getting along as a barometer for how well they’re doing as a parent. This is true even though virtually all siblings have some conflict,” said Laurie Kramer, a University of Illinois professor of applied family studies and co-author of the study.
Studies show that fathers and mothers interact with children differently. “Dads tend to get more involved with their kids when they are playing whereas mothers tend to coach their children more,” Kramer said. " The children eventually observe that Mom and Dad are the only ones who think they’re awesome when no one else is saying it," said Kathy Caprino, who is a career success coach, writer, and leadership trainer. "They begin to doubt the objectivity of their parents; it feels good in the moment, but it’s not connected to reality. When we rave too easily and disregard poor behavior, children eventually learn to cheat, exaggerate and lie and to avoid difficult reality. They have not been conditioned to face it. If your relationship is based on material rewards, kids will experience neither intrinsic motivation nor unconditional love."
In contrast, fathers who noticed more warmth between their children following the program were better able to manage their negative emotions when their children did squabble. This may be because they now felt more confident that their children would be able to manage any conflict that did erupt as a result of the skills they learned from the program.