Greedy
parents of indian girls
it is very painful to talk on this issue.The subject is on
our culture and how indian girls are forgetting their responsibities
and going off the track.It is rather more painful to see that
the parents are also joining hands with them and donot want
to show them the right path. Marriage is something very sacred
bond and it is considered a spiritual union.The whole concept
of marriage is changed these days.i am going to write my personal
experience. I brought my daughter in law from khanna pb.She
was from a poor family and always hungry for money.she was
given all regard all comforts all time to study work and relax.She
wanted to be a doctor in this country and it took ten years
to meet her goal.Finally she got what she wanted and left
child ,home and husband as now she waned to have a white husband.
The marriage to a man of her choice was not easy ,so again
she concentrated on us and started putting all types of false
accusations ! and asking for crores of rupes.While living
with us she used to yell at us but outside the she used to
pretend like a devi. The whole idea of writing my experience
is to tell the nri parents and their children not to go to
india to bring spouses from there .because now they come with
you not to become a part of your family but to use you and
loot you with the help of their families. S.Sahota,
USA, pampukangs@yahoo.com
x814-8334848, , May 17, 2006
at 05:27:53
Fraudulent student visa girl
married to my brother to become permanent:
I Canadian Citizen born and raised in Canada concerned of
this issue of fraud marriages. I feel like that our Indian
society is looking into abandoned Indian brides more than
our abandoned grooms. My brother born and raised in Canada
got married to a girl from India on September 10, 2005 is
a victim himself as a abandoned groom. My brother lives in
Calgary, AB got married to this girl from India and got betrayed,
not just him but our whole family. His ex-wife came to Canada
December 25, 2004 to Toronto, Ont on a student visa. She stayed
there for about 1 month with her aunt and uncle, never once
attended school, then she never got along with her aunt and
uncle in Toronto, Ont, so she decided to come to Abbotsford,
BC. She stayed in BC with her friend from India for 1 week
but that didn't work out for her either. Then she moved to
another family friends house in Abbotsford and lived there
until she married my brother. Her purpose to come to Canada
was for a groom search not ! to study. She has not attened
a day of school in Canada since she's been here, but the government
issued her a student visa. She got introduced to my brother
in March 2005. My brother and our family thought that she
was studying here to become a nurse we had no idea what her
intentions were. Their wedding was a big wedding with 600
people in Calgary, AB. She got everything she wanted, a big
wedding a canadain citizen boy, and my brother works for the
government as well, so she lucked out.
But two weeks after the wedding she was on my brother and
my parents case to do her sponsorship, we were kind of suspicious
then because her student visa was for 3 years. She never stopped,
everyday she only talked about one thing sponsorship, she
threatened to kill herself to my brother if he didn't sponsor
her. Then he thought that something was wrong with her, and
he started to believe that maybe she only married me for citizenship.
And she did tried to kill herself. She stabbed her arm! and
we called the police and they took her to the hospital, that
was 6 weeks after the wedding. My brother did not want her
back then because we found out that she was here on a fraudulent
student visa. Her family paid 900,000Rs in India for her visa.
She was on a groom search. My brother also found emails that
she had emailed to her boyfriend in India. It's to long of
a story there is way more to this story, but it is not FAIR
to victims that get stuck with these people and they get away
with it. Marriage is not a game and not a way for someone
to get a Canadian citizenship. These scams have to be stopped
and these people need to be deported back to India where they
came from. They are taking advantage of our government and
breaking immigration laws. I strongly believe that it is
a great idea of having a 3 year probation period. I really
like to speak out to people and tell them that it's not just
Indian brides that are being abandoned but our grooms are
too. I am amazed a! t how these girls and their families plan
these scams and ruin their lives and and our lives. Being
born and raised here in Canada I have been taught by my parents
that reputation is a huge for Sikhs but people that live in
India don't care about anything, they are selling they're
daughters and doing anything just to get them to Canada and
it disgusts me. I will do anything I can to put a stop to
all of these scams, so there will be no more victims that
have to go through what my brother and our family is going
through right now....Vancouver, R.
Samran, raman_samran@yahoo.ca
Victim
of Marriage Fraud
My name is Qudsia Javed and I am the Victim of Marriage Fraud.
I went to Pakistan last year and got married in March 2005.
I came back to Canada and sponsored my husband. He got his
Visa in November 2005 and he came to Canada without informing
me. After about two weeks I found out that he is here in Canada.
It has been five months now I am sitting at home depressed,
Don't know what to do and where to go to get some help. Plz
contact me at xxx--xxx, I would apreciate it.
I fully suport the Marriage Fraud Victim Force and I hope
they would succeed soon. I would like the canadian government
to take some serious action on this.....Toronto,
. qudsia_javed@hotmail.com
x Qudsia Javed, 905-676-90
NRI Husband Trapped by Indian
Bridge & her Family Add your (cut & paste)
opinions/ comments/: This was going as general tradition going
in India of Arrange Marriage, the trend which is changing.
I had travelled to India in June' 2002 and met Payal first
time at his maternal uncle house through some channel from
known sources. First meeting was not very comfortable as Payal
smile was mysterious. Not a broad smile and nor reserved smile.
Though their parents were present at her uncle house, it was
her uncle who was the host and talked well. To me she and
her family seem to be a simple family with some sort of trouble
which I found on their face.
I was just looking for some simple girl and therefore giving
thought twice got engaged and shortly left to Hong Kong. We
got married after 6 months from engagement and I travelled
immediately back to Hong Kong after marriage as I had to resume
work and asked my wife to stay for couple of months with my
parents in Akola (Maharastra) and join me as I have to look
for new house in Hong Kong. She stayed only for 10-15 days
and left to Bombay. Soon the ugly side came up in front of
us, my mother was hospitalized for some major operation and
payal refused to travel to take her care. On asking her why
she replied as she would turn dark their and she will get
bored alone. Unbelievable!!!! I fough with her and pursued
her to atleast visit for 15 days and she visited for 7 days.
After this when she was travelling back to Hong Kong, I advised
her to keep all big jewelleries with my parents as here there
is no social gathering where she would be requiring. But she
fought with me and my parents and brought all jewelleries
to Hong Kong.
The scheme started than, when she deposited the jewellery
in the locker in her sole name despite my instructions to
open a join account and than also opened her bank account
again in sole name. All our common savings were kept in that
account say around HK$100,00/- I was under debts so I was
maintaing this seperate account. Within period of 6 months
she transferred from this common savings INR 150,000/- to
her parents stating this transfer were towards her sister's
college fees, her mother operation, the shortfall for buying
a property by her brother. But the fact what that never her
mother was operated, nor did her brother buy any property
after such transfers. We had fights on it and thereafter I
strictly told her to stop to send out any single penny.
My parents arrived first time in Hong Kong (after 1 yr of
my marriage) and payal was not liking this and frequently
she insulted them and fought with them. I had big fights with
her and my parents had to leave early as they were treated
like dog by payal, they were not in position to tolerate more.
During this period we came to know she was pregnant, she felt
shocked and fought with me for having baby. She after couple
of months insisted to travel to India as she wanted to meet
her parents. Despite my objection she travelled to India and
thereafter meeting her parents they together went and aborted
the chiild without my knowledge/ permission saying that the
child was abnormal. I knew by than this was lie as my child
was normal when the report carried out earlier were showing
normal symptons.
Payal after 1 month from abortion came back to Hong Kong
and now stays at her friends house. She is working here and
currently we are going through Divorce case where she has
demanded HK$8,000/- (INR 50,000/) Per month from me and expesnes
of HK$150,000/- (INR 900,000/-) towards her (family's) contribution
for marriage. This is beyond the savings she snatched from
me of HK$100,000/- (INR600,000) and jewellery given to her
during marraige of INR300,000/-.
Her father who was not stable in business earlier and always
struggling in his life for Minimal earnings, is now having
good business. Her brother who was out of business too now
is into business. They have got enough money now, and I and
my parents are struggling whatever savings/ jewelleries we
had has been lost. Beyond that I face a trial which can go
against me as court favours girls? Now I think is being Male
an Crime itself ? I have lost child, money, savings, and peace
but for all this loss also will I be punished more ?
I think I am not the only person being under such trap, but
lot of NRI'S are into this! So my message is to all to be
very careful before you get into life time committment......Hong
Kong SAR, China, .Parekh, parekhrb@yahoo.co.in-983
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