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Jaskaran Mahil I went to India in February 2004 with my uncle from England. This was my first trip to India. I was 22 years old and I was looking forward to find a life companion who would be with me and my family. I was introduced to few girls through my mom’s brother. I was being honest and I was telling them about my child from my past relationship. During this process my sister in Canada talked to SUKHI (girl's Mama). He lives in Surrey, BC Canada and was a co worker with my sister and my brother in law. My sister talked to Sukhi about my situation and how I was looking for a girl to settle down. Sukhi knew everything about my past and my child. He proposed to my sister to tell me to take a look at his sister’s daughter. My sister and brother in law explained clearly to Sukhi that Johnny has a son and he is going to be a part of his life and his partner’s life after marriage. Sukhi accepted and says that is understandable and he already knows about it. Sukhi acted on behalf of his sister in India. Then after this was all accepted and clearly explained he called me personally and proposed me to take a look at his niece. By that time my mother and my grandmother were there already with me in India. Sukhi had a conversation with my mother as well about it. I, my mother and grandmother went to see *R.deep. I talked to R.deep one on one. I told R.deep about my past relationship, and my son. I also explained that it would be your decision not anyone else’s, because she is going to be my life partner and my sons new step mother. I told her to think before she makes her final decision. The next day Sukhi called from Canada and told me that his niece is willing to get married to me. I talked to my mother and finalized everything and arranged the marriage on a short notice, because my mother had to come back to Canada within 10 days. I and R.deep got married on April 7, 2004. We went for our honeymoon to Shimla a hill station in India. During my stay in India after wedding I met her close family members. I left from India on April 17, 2004. My first priority after coming from India was to bring my wife R.deep to Canada as I was missing her a lot. I filed documents for R.deep’s Immigration to Canada in May 2004. Because of my past relationship in Canada the immigration Department in India sent R.deep a letter for an interview. I flew to India especially to support and prepare her for the interview. During the whole time when R.deep was in India I was sending money for her day to day expenses and education. I was encouraging her the whole time to join classes for English speaking courses and basic knowledge in computers. Unfortunately the Immigration department denied her immigration to Canada in Feb. 2005. I was very disappointed as I was looking forward to bring her to Canada for the past 1 year. I hired the lawyer right away with the recommendation of Sukhi to file the appeal against immigration decision. After a long wait the appeal date was set for February 2006. I and my father flew to Vancouver for the appeal date. Finally the Judge made the decision in our favour. I was extremely happy that God finally heard my and my parent’s prayers after a long time. I was looking forward to start my life with my wife. We had to reapply for R.deep’s medical and police clearance as it was already expired because of the delay in process of immigration. I was very frustrated because immigration department was not issuing visa to R.deep even after wining the appeal. I called so many times to the immigration department but I dint get a response from them. So I finally decided to write an email to my local MP Rona Ambrose. I was talking to Tiffany Zender who represented the MP about this situation and she emailed the Indian embassy. Tiffany supported us a lot to make the process faster. Finally we got a response from the embassy on September 6th that the visa has been issued. We all were extremely happy. I booked R.deep’s ticket and sent her $2,900 for shopping in India before coming here. During the plans of her coming here, I and my family were frequently talking to Sukhi regarding her booking ticket and other plans. We wanted her to land in Edmonton but Sukhi insisted everyone to make her land in Vancouver. He told us that he would like to keep R.deep for couple weeks at his place before sending to Edmonton. We didn’t like it as we all were looking forward to see her in our family. Especially my father was going to see her for the first time. Sukhi kept on insisting us to leave her in Vancouver for some time. I and my family agreed her to stay in Vancouver for a week but I decided to come to Vancouver to pick her up from the airport and stay with her for that week. I booked the returned ticket for myself and one way ticket for R.deep from Vancouver to Edmonton. Sukhi got mad that why we booked the ticket for Ramandeep as he wants to keep her in Vancouver for some time. We insisted that we would like her to come back with me as me and my family are loo! king forward to see her as soon as possible. Moreover she is going to stay in Vancouver with him for a week before coming to Edmonton. R.deep landed in Vancouver on September 25th 2006. I, my brother-in-law, Sukhi and his family went to the Airport to pick her up. I took flowers and box of chocolate for her to the airport. From the very first day she landed in Vancouver, I saw a big change in R.deep. It was not the same person I married and used to talk to me on the phone for two years. She was all for her Uncle Sukhi rather than me. During her stay in Vancouver at her uncle’s house she gave me attitude and listened to her uncle. Along with her uncle she started insisting on staying in Vancouver for some time and told me to leave by myself to Edmonton. I was very angry and surprised with this situation as my family was waiting for her in Edmonton and my father was going to see her for the first time. I had arguments with her couple times on this issue and finally she and her uncle agreed upon her leaving to Edmonton with me. We left for Edmonton on September 29th 2006. My family was very happy and looking forward to meet her. Upon arrival we had a very warm welcome from my family and everyone was excited with the presence of R.deep in our family. During all those happy moments me and my family was getting surprises from R.deep’s attitude. Most of the time she was lying in the bedroom, watching TV or calling India or her uncle Sukhi in Surrey. If I ever ask her something or wants her to mingle with us she would say that she is having a headache and want to lie down. I always asked her that if she would like to go to the doctor. Most of the t time she refused but upon insisting a lot she agreed to go and see the doctor. Doctor examined her and said everything is normal. I never understood where she was getting headaches from. I took her to the mall and bought her clothes. I even engaged her in the ESL classes to improve her English. I and my dad took her to look for the new SUV we were going! to buy. During all that she never showed any excitement or happiness while her stay with us. R.deep was not very joyful to be with me, and I did not get to know why because she would not talk to me. She had been in Canada for three weeks and her Uncle in Canada was getting more communication than me. I felt that she was feeling upset so I tried to talk to her and told her that I would do what ever it takes to make you happy. I never knew that she would phone her uncle and say she was feeling upset and she did not want to stay at my house. On October 13th 2006 I got a big shock when her Uncle called and started telling me that I m not taking good care of her. He was totally disrespectful to me and even said that R.deep is smarter than me and Canadian people are dumb. In respect I did not talk back to her uncle. He told me to give the phone to R.deep and I did. After she got off from the phone while I was standing in from of her she asked my Dad if she can go to Surrey to her Uncle. I was shocked, I am her husband and she asked my father if she could go, she shou! ld have asked me and told me why. I did not say anything, because I now felt like ever since she got off the plane her and her uncle’s plan was to leave me and stay at her uncle’s house. She went upstairs and started packing. I continued working upset and feeling like what did I do wrong. After she was done packing she came to me and asked if she can go to Vancouver for couple of days. My reply was you are going on your own decision not mine, and if I say it won’t make any difference anyhow. I dropped her off at the airport. My heart was broken and I felt used by R.deep and her Uncle just to bring her across Canada. When she left my Dad at the Airport gave her $100 and said call us once you get there. She didn’t call when she got there. After a long wait I called her uncles house and her uncle’s son answered the phone. He said R.deep was sleeping. I told him to give her a message to call me once she wakes up. She called me later and said she was so happy to be here. I was so upset thinking why I can’t make her happy. The second day she called again and said she was very happy and she has cooked food today. She cunningly asked me if I want her to come back. I said I never wanted you to leave in the first place so come back when you feel right. She replied she is not coming back. She talked to my Dad one or two times, she and her Uncle are always blaming me for all this. I still don’t know where I went wrong. All I can say that I and my family were being used to bring her across Canada. I have heard a lot of stories these days that people living in India especially Punjab don't care about anything. They are even willing to sell their daughters just to get them to Canada and it disgusts me. I want to do anything to send R.deep back to India and set example for all the people in India who take advantage of families like ours and abuse the immigration system to get across here. Please let me know what could be done or what are the chances to teach lesson to people like Ramandeep and her uncle under any act or law. I would really appreciate if someone can get back to me on Johnny_Mahil@hotmail.com email
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