Marriage for Candian immigration

That many of Citizens of Canada and Permanent Residents of Canada are being deceived by foreign nationals into entering marriages of convenience for the purpose of acquiring permanent residence in Canada for the foreign nationals, and using Canadian Law to their advantage.

Toronto, Canada, Sep. 03, 2006
Gary Singh

NRI, B. Singh from Toronto describe; I had a dream to get married, raise a family, live a life as a normal citizen and contribute to the society and community. I thought marriage was about trusting each other, about looking after each other, about taking care of each other in lows and ups in the life. Marriage without trust is unthinkable for me. I thought marriage was for lifetime, without any selfish purpose or malice. I thought by getting marriage with the approval of parents and your community is the right thing to do, as if in our long life together we have any miscommunication or misunderstanding about each other, we can sit in the family and follow community rules we can resolve those issued, boy o boy was I wrong. Was I that naïve or the meaning of marriage seems changing these days in our community!! Or may be people have different reason to get married?

I still can not imagine how a girl/boy including their parents can ruin someone’s dream of happy married life and forget all the rituals and religious duties we are all costumed to for their own selfish purpose!!!!
I truly believe that I and Canadian system was used for the sole purpose of getting the Canadian Immigration and once the other party felt secure that I am no longer needed they dumped me like a used object. For them word marriage hold no meaning.

I am writing this letter in hope that justice will be served according to the quote below and in future innocent Canadian can be saved from this planned prank.

"Canadian Immigration Regulations, 1978, s. 4(3): The family class does not include a spouse who entered into the marriage primarily for the purpose of gaining admission to Canada as a member of the family class and not with the intention of residing permanently with the other spouse."

I am a Canadian citizen. I did my studies in Montreal and moved to Toronto for better job opportunities. I went back to my homeland (India) and got married (arrange marriage) with all the traditions in front of all my family. To me marriage is something very sacred bond and it is considered a spiritual union.

When my spouse got her VISA I started to get feeling she wants me to leave her. Anyhow, she moved to Canada, I bought a house as it was my dream to buy a house when I get married. She always expresses her displeasure about moving to Canada, and how her life was better in India. She never mingled with my close nit family. She and her family try to provoke me to leave her by showing me that her character was not good. (Now that she had her visa I was not needed anymore) I didn’t wanted to end my marriage because I always took it as a long term relationship bond by culture and religion.

When they saw I am doing everything and more to keep my marriage her true color came on exactly one year after moving into the house, she try to get me arrested by making false claim that I am torturing her, I don't love her, and that my family who is living in Montreal is beating her and asking dowry from her. This was all planned and made up to get me arrested.
(Please note that dowry is usually asked before or on the wedding day not 1 year later when she is already moved to Canada. You can also see the wedding movie and see how simple and traditional the wedding was and also note that I never raise my hand on anyone let alone my wife).

The plan started when she went to her cousin brother’s house who lives in Toronto and that's where they plan to get me arrested by calling the police. But thank God I was not arrested. Please note that it was me respecting the culture and social value of brother-sister day (Raksha Bandhan) that dropped her to her cousin brother's house before going to work at 6am.
That is when they planned this whole scenario to put me in trouble. The next day, when I went to pick her up from the work at about 8:45pm, after waiting outside the store for about 30 minutes, I went inside and the owner of the store told me that she left work at about 5:30pm with her cousin brother because her wife was not feeling well. I thought may be there was an emergency. I got home at about 9:30pm and did not find her at home.

At about 9:40pm she came to house and immediately when upstairs, I was in the kitchen on the phone with my mom. My mom told me that she would like to talk to her, so I went upstairs to get her. That is when I find her locked in the bathroom; she wouldn't open the bathroom door. I was confused and did not knew what was going on, so I knocked the door, when I heard her murmuring, I thought she was crying, so I open the door with penny, that is when I find her talking on the cell phone (given to her by her brother the same night) with the police. I was completely shocked to hear her say that I was torturing her and she was saying to the police to come soon to save her. I just stood there with my jaw to the ground thinking what is she doing and why is she doing to me.

I did not wanted to get in any more trouble by engaging conversation with her as she was on the phone with the police and saying absurd things. Confused, I just waked down stair and waited for the police to arrive near the door. That day she took her passport, PR card and all immigration paper along with cash, jewelry sitting in the house. And she later she took the rest of her stuff along with joint gifts etc.

Since that day she is living with her cousin brother. Since I knew I did not do anything wrong I thought her family will sit with me to do the reconciliation but that day never arrived instead she claimed for legal aid to get a free lawyer while working full time. She sent me divorce paper, asking for support and asking half of my assets which I earn before I got married to her. I had also bought her a return ticket to visit India but she never went back to India since then.

Sincerely,

(ID is in file)