Marrying After not Divorce....What do we get?

Canadian NRI girl in trouble
to get married before her previous marriage ends

Moga,Punjab, Oct 3, 2007
chennaionline.com
(Agencies)

Two men of the district are locked in a court battle over their "marriages" to an NRI girl, with one of them claiming he had not divorced her.

The legal battle concerns Maninder Kaur from Abotsford, near Surrey in Canada, who arrived here in August 2003 and reportedly fell in love with Nirmal Singh.

The couple reportedly got married in a temple in Chamba on August 26, 2003.

After a short while both Singh and Kaur moved the Punjab and Haryana High Court seeking protection, claiming a threat to their lives as the two had married against the wishes of their parents.

The Court accordingly directed Moga's Senior Superintendent of Police to provide adequate security to them.

After a few months, Kaur's mother Joginder Kaur sent a message to her daughter that her father was seriously ill and wanted to see her.

When Maninder came to the house of her parents here, they allegedly forced her daughter's to file an affidavit saying she never wanted to "marry" Nirmal and had been "forced to marry him at gun point".

Maninder's parents subsequently married her off to one Sukminder Singh of Mehna village on December 21, 2004.

After about a month of her second marriage, the girl flew back to Canada. When Nirmal Singh came to know about the development he moved Judicial Magistrate's Court here seeking restoration of conjugal rights and also alleged that her second marriage was illegal as no divorce had been taken.

The Court in February 2005 asked the second groom Sukminder to deposit his passport and also asked him not to leave the country without its permission.

Sukminder had got his marriage to Maninder registered in the office of Registrar of Marriages on January 18, 2005. When Nirmal Singh moved the Moga Court, the NRI girl's mother Joginder Kaur also petitioned the High Court taking the plea that the first marriage was performed under pressure at gun point. She claimed the second marriage was the "real one".

The High Court in its order a few days back has fixed October 15, 2007 as the next date of hearing the matter. (Agencies)

Read our Opinion:

Dear Dada ji,

What is the solution of this mistake? This innocent girl married second time with the pressure of mother....Balwinder Kaur, Toronto
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Hi, Balwinder

• All marriages are to be performed legally and validly. A legal marriage is one where the wedding was carried out according to the rules of civil law and where applicable, to Church, Gurdwara or Mandar law.
• A valid marriage is one in which the couple understanding of marriage is accurate, their intentions are appropriate and their abilities to fulfill their marriage vows are adequate.
• It should also be said that the process cannot begin until it is proven that the couples relationship has broken down and cannot be restored. The fact that a couple has obtained a civil divorce proves that fact, but is not proof that the marriage was invalid at its start. Invalidity must be proven, and the burden of proof rests with the person who first made the claim. A priest or another pastoral minister can assist someone in making and defending a claim

We, parents are trying to help our children but it is not acceptable in this generation. Smart parents don't interfere once it happened like this. If we feel kids did a mistake, we should tolerate it and not create more trouble.. By Gary Singh